Woman decides to confront husband's female coworker after she refuses to stop asking him out, husband fears he will lose his job as a result: ‘Don’t confront her’

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Mar 19, 2025 8:00 AM EDT

The most annoying people you will meet in life are those who refuse to take 'no' for an answer. Those who think they can get whatever they want, and dismiss anyone who tells them otherwise. They go about their life acting like they're entitled to anything they set their eyes on, and if you, unfortunately, come across their path, you will find it very hard to ever break free of them.

When someone like that decides they want something, you will never hear the end of it. And when that something is a romantic relationship, it might even be worse. The more they are told 'no', the more they want it, like actual children. They don't care if the person they are after is not interested, already in a relationship, or even married. They simply will not stop.

That is what the husband in the story below is currently dealing with at work. His coworker keeps flirting with him, even though she knows he is happily married. His wife is also aware of this behavior, and she decided something needs to be done about it. 

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  • Her initial instinct is to confront this coworker and demand she stop, but that might complicate things at work for her husband. Instead, she was advised to report this coworker to management, and possibly get her fired, but the wife is still not convinced this is the right move.

    Keep scrolling to read the full story, and let us know what you think this couple should do in the comments down below.

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  • "AITAH- for wanting to confront my husbands female coworker"

    AITAH for wanting to confront my husbands coworker. For context I (35F) have been married to my husband (29M) for 8 years and we have 5 children together. He works
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  • two jobs as do I, he has a day job (carpenter) and a casual night job (2 nights a week as a chef) he has had this night job for roughly a year, I work nights in the same restaurant
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  • just on different nights to my husband casually. We do not advertise to our coworkers about our personal life or that we are married to each other. However it is obvious to anyone I am married (I wear
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  • my wedding band and engagement ring at work, my husband doesn't as he works in a kitchen) 3 months ago, a young woman (21) was hired in the
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  • kitchen on the nights that my husband works (sometimes she's on shift when I'm working also but I don't directly work with her) pretty soon after starting work she had asked my husband if he
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  • was single? his reply was a simple no. She asked him again on a second occasion, well are you married? He said yes and left it at that and she has been relentlessly pursuing him ever since, asking him to
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  • hang out after work, asking for a lift home from work, asking where he works during the day and I've now found out that another co worker has let her know he's married to me and apparently said she gets
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  • what she wants and wouldn't let an "old lady" stop her from trying to pursue my husband. I've heard my husbands side and from another chef who works with him that my
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  • husband has shown zero interest and is trying to keep things professional but this young woman seems very persistent in pursuing him when all he does is rebuff.
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  • I told my husband I want to confront her and he's concerned about both of us losing our jobs if it becomes an argument at work.
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  • So AITAH... what would you do? Do I just let her keep going? It's really pi ing me off
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  • Weird-Salamander-349 Don't do that. Tell him to inform management that he's being harassed. This isn't acceptable workplace behavior and if the restaurant wants to protect itself, they will make her stop or terminate her employment.
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  • Constant_Jelly52 Don't confront her you'll turn it into a "hostile environment" from her point of view. Your husband needs to step up tell her it's inappropriate and he will have to contact the manager if she continues. this harassment
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  • Prestigious Pie_514 The next time she starts hitting on him, he should tell her to hang there for a second and call his manager over. Once the manager is there, he needs to look her in the eye and tell her he is a married man, and would appreciate if she stopped harassing him.
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  • Glum_Water_9878 OP I actually think this is something that would work out better than sitting down and speaking to his manager, Thankyou!
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  • Melodic_Individual85 I sort of see where you're coming from thinking this girl needs her job, but frankly, she's creating a hostile work environment for you guys, especially your husband. Doesn't matter how young you are or your gender: relentlessly pursuing
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  • someone who is not interested, especially in a work environment, is inappropriate, and she needs to learn that she is not special and is held to the same standards as anyone else. Her whole thing about "getting what she wants" is so incredibly immature,
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  • and maybe if she lost her job over it, then she would respect other people more. Sometimes actions have negative consequences, but if she loses her job, it will be her own fault.
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  • Glum_Water_9878 OP I love this response, you are right. We both have considered she's just young and immature and it will pass but her behaviour goes against code of conduct at our workplace and she should have consequences. I think for my husband it's a gender issue, he's a male being harassed by a young woman and I don't think wants to have that uncomfortable conversation that HAS to happen.
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  • moreKEYTAR He better be willing to draw that line in the sand and give his manager a head's up, especially to establish his truth with the manager. As an adult we sometimes need to have uncomfortable conversations and any avoidance would make me wonder why, personally. You deserve for him to defend your marriage.
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  • Glum_Water_9878 OP I agree, I think the whole situation is very awkward for him, he's a male I'm sure it wouldn't be a comfortable conversation to have that you are being harassed by a young woman to your boss. I think that's his issue. But I agree with what you are saying 100%
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  • Blazeymama OP, however your husband decides to go about this, make sure he records their interaction. She seems like the homewrecker who will cry to HR and twist things around.
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  • Glum_Water_9878 OP Fortunately there are cameras in the kitchen where all these interactions take place so that works in hubbys favour. I agree, she's dangerous and I think if she was pushed into a corner over her job she would twist everything
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  • Glum Water_9878 OP Thankyou for your responses. For all those questioning the loyalty of my husband in this situation - I don't know who hurt you but good luck healing your wounds, for anyone that knows what it's like working as a line
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  • chef you don't really have the time to be having a conversation or interest in anything but cooking and getting orders out. Thanks to all those that gave solid advice, you guys are legends!
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